Those who read yesterday's post NHS MEGA-RANT TO FOLLOW may wonder what on earth happened to cause me to scream. Before I answer may I ask you to read this post Have We Reached The End With NHS? which is a direct precursor to what happened yesterday.
Today's post is in two parts: the first describes Mrs Carr's appalling treatment yesterday and the second is a plea for help in spreading this story across the web.
Yesterday, Mrs Carr returned to see the same consultant psychotherapist whom she saw last week: she wasn't there for treatment but for a scond opinion. Last week I wrote: "she came away feeling as though she had been abused - psychologically. She came away having been abused.". Yesterday, the psychological abuse reached a new and very dangerous level. After about
30 mins the consultant said that he had all that he needed. Mrs Carr asked what he had found and he said:
CP: "Psychotherapeutic relationships are damaging to you and should be avoided"
Mrs C: "What about normal emotional relationships?"
CP "They too can be harmful and should be avoided."
Mrs C: "Are you saying that I should be denied relationships?"
CP: "There are some for whom it is harmful. You should consider this"
Mrs C: "Are you saying that I should be denied the basic human need of relationships?"
CP: "We are all individuals?"
Mrs C: "Are you saying that it is not a basic human need to have relationships?"
CP: "We are all individuals"
Mrs C: "Now I know exactly what you mean, there is no more to say" At this point Mrs C walked out.
It is clear that the counsultant DID mean that Mrs C should not have relationships in her life.
Now, EVEN IF the consultant's view was correct, EVEN IF, this should have been handled with immense sensitivity but it wasn't. Immense insensitivity!
Imagine saying to anybody that you should never be emotionally close to anyone ever again. Imagine their shock. Imagine their distress. Now imagine saying this to a psychologically fragile person who has already attempted suicide twice. If anything is likely to push one over the edge it is this.
[I thought I had calmed down but as I write this I feel my anger rising and RISING - apologies]
The consultant's behaviour, at best, is crass, cold, calculating, callous, uncaring and unprofessional. At worst ...........
The spectre of suicide must be close. Many of us would find a life without relationships to be a life not worth living. I am fearful.
In a caring and compassionate NHS this would not have happened. Mrs Carr would have been assessed more than 1 year ago. Instead her NHS has consistently ignored her and now, finally, abused her psychologically to a degree which I would never have believed possible.
She needs help now. Proper, compassionate care with understanding of her problems.
For about a year I have blogged about the major difficulties we encountered in trying to have Mrs Carr assessed, diagnosed and treated for her problems and I am very grateful for the support of fellow bloggers. I have spoken on many occasions to her GP and various consultants; I have written to her GP and consultants; our MSP wrote to NHS Lothian all without a glimmer of success.
I have spoken to experts outwith the NHS and one from within: all have said that Mrs Carr is the type of patient they shold be seeing but yet access is denied. Yesterday, I spoke at length to a retired NHS consultant psychiatrist and to her there was no doubt that, from the symptoms I described, Mrs Carr was suffering from an Identity Disorder. Even little snippets of information tied in with the typical behaviour of such a sufferer but yet the NHS is blind and closed and, apparently, determined to deny Mrs Carr assessment, diagnosis and treatment.
Mrs Carr cannot be alone in being treated in this most shameful way and in having her life put at increased risk through the most insensitive behaviour of a consultant.
Mrs Carr needs help NOW!
Others need help now!!
You can help.
Let's spread this story across the web until it so big that it cannot be ignored. If you can please post about Mrs Carr's plight; please link to my posts and ask your readers to do likewise. Even if you are not in the UK please help.
We can help Mrs Carr. We can help others get a much better mental health treatment through our NHS.
Publicity is the key.
We can make changes. We MUST make changes.